Ever since she has got the new job, she has been spending a lot more time on her phone. When I ask her what she is upto, she says she was sending a work related email, or reading a joke on Facebook, if I say, may I have a look, she says I will forward it to you. Recently I made an excuse for using her phone and she was clearly very uncomfortable with it and took it back quickly.
She was like cell phones are a private thing and there is no need to snoop into each other’s phones.
There isn’t any other change in her behaviour apart from this that may suggest cheating. But this has got me a little worried. What’s your opinion
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Well, i can’t tell you if she’s hiding something or not, she might be hiding something that ain’t related to cheating or she might be cheating, who knows??
I personally think that between a couple everything shall be clear and there must be most be no secrets! “trust is an important issue” and don’t count a lot on the behavior, because some girls are not that dumb to make you realize what she’s doing! If your having suspicions and feeling always uncomfortable, tell your girl about it…If she doesn’t responds or agree, take that damn phone by force and see everything, just so you know what’s really happening and to know once and for all if you shall stay with her or not!
Does she take her phone everywhere she goes? If she’s protecting it that way, there’s something to see. I would tell her to let you see her phone or you’re leaving, and you’re not coming back after she’s had a chance to erase things.
Why don’t you tell her, it seems to me that you must cheating or doing something you know I wouldn’t like if you won’t let me look at your phone. I’m not going to live with someone who is doing something she doesn’t want me to know about, there is no other reason for you to not let me look at your phone, I’ve decided that you are not trustworthy and I need to be finding myself someone who is, then leave. I have no qualms about letting my wife see my phone and she doesn’t have any qualms about me seeing hers’ either. Something is going on with her.
Sorry to tell you this, but she is definitely hiding something from you…You are by far paranoid and have every right to be suspicious. When she “hides” her phone it’s because she’s trying to “hide” something! And no, you are not jealous – you are insecure with your relationship and I would be also. You need to get to the bottom of it and sit down with her and demand (nicely) that she tell you what is going on and that you DO NOT have stupid written on your forehead. Good luck and I hope you get this straightened out.
I agree with your wife. Mobile phones are private and you don’t need to see what’s on someone else’s. If there are not signs of cheating, she isn’t cheating. You need to mind your own business.
Honesty is the best policy. Be honest and admit to her your suspicions pointing out her differences since starting the new job, and how all can be solved by simply letting you see her phone.
Leave her phone alone and treat her like you did when you were courting her. Then you will have zero reason to be worried about any of this stuff.
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Stop being so paranoid. You have no right to look through her phone anyway.
She is independent one.