He knows I like him and he says he is not ready for a relationship but he likes what we are doing (cuddling, hanging out, going out, kissing) and I’m totally fine with that because I’m not sure that I want a relationship… But the way that he holds me and kisses me just seems like he wants more and it’s so confusing. How can guys do that but have no feelings? I mean, I know he has some sort of feelings for me, I’m not “just a hook up”, he genuinely seems interested in me and my life.. Ugh idk could he just be scared? It’s not like he’s going to get sex from me, I’m a virgin and he knows that and respects if so I know that’s not what he’s looking for! Help please!!
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If your both not ready for a relationship, then it’s best not to do these things especially if your not ready for sex. He could try to show you he’s a good guy right now but will want it from you later. What could he possibly be scared of if he’s already showing you signs he could either be into you or wants you as a friends with benefits? Guys who tend to want friends with benefits tend to cuddle/kiss/etc. He does want more. He wants sex. It’s obvious if you can tell by the way he holds you. If he knows that your a virgin, he will most likely be more tempted because he wants something out of you already. Try to truly figure out if he likes you for you by not kissing and cuddling. If he stays around, then you know he could possibly be worth something in your life. It can’t be just once without it. Give it some time before he gets too comfortable making you uncomfortable. If he doesn’t stop when you tell him too, then thats not good. You should respect your body, He could end up having a girlfriend later on, doing this behind her back and have you as just fun off to the side along with possibly other girls. Trust me. It’s not fun. I’ve been there.
This Can Be Tough Because She Could Be Telling The Truth And It Doesn’t Mean ANything When It Happens Or She Is Flat Out Lying. Look Over Your Relationship Has She Lied To You Before? If She Has Theres A Very Good Chance She’s Lying Again. It’s Tough When You Love Someone But You Need To Be Very Cautious Because Once A Cheater Always A Cheater.
How old are you two? Real deep relationships don’t usually occur in young kids. It’s more infatuations and crushes, called “puppy love”. Yeah, he probably enjoys the cuddling because he gets to at least feel your body close to him and gets a bit of sexual relief just from that. But he really wants more sexually from you. All boys usually do. Whether he gets to do anything or not is up to you. And if you’re under the “age of consent (16, 17 in some states), it’s not legal for him to do any sexual acts at all. So don’t kid yourself about being in a relationship at such a young age. Most kids your age change partners like some change their underwear.
Well don’t let him take advantage of you. It’s fine what you guys are doing but don’t let him just drag you around if he doesn’t want a relationship. Maybe eventually he will be ready but until then don’t let him take advantage of you. And remember…neither of you are in a relationship with each other so he could be doing the same thing with another girl…and there’s nothing you can really do about It because you two aren’t dating. Good luck.
I think this guy wants a “Friends With Benefit” with you. Because it seems like he don’t want to get involve in a relationship but still want to be touchy toward you and stuff. That means he rather want a FWB with you than a boyfriend and girlfriend. I suggest that you should not be with this guy. It seems like you’re looking for the right guy to be in a relationship with. Trust me, this guy doesn’t sound like one. I think he only after you for more than kissing and cuddling.
I agree with John and MissLara’s answers. 🙂
i was once seeing a guy who was like this – it ended up lasting for over a year – i befriended one of his girl mates and she didnt know this was happening between us, she was telling me about how he goes out every weekend and hooks up and then she said about this one night he went out got super drunk then said he had to go because he had his ‘ladies’ coming over – that was a night i was going over- after i found out all of this i stopped talking to him immediatly – i felt like i was put in his basket of pick and choose ladies but he was so good at hiding it that you actually thought you were the only one – so from now on i dont trust those men and i just move on – theres always someone better thats worth your time
he shouldn’t have told you that he does not want a relationship, rather wait to get to know you then tell you of his decision.
Just go with the flow, if you feel uncomfortable at any time, let him know.
He likes you, and wants to be with you. He just doesn’t feel that he can handle a relationship.
I’ve been in a similar situation. He doesn’t know what he wants right now. He does care for you, though. Just a hint; my situation resolved after I stopped seeing him. He missed me so much that he figured out how much he actually wants me, needs me and loves me. 🙂