She called me at 2 in the morning crying and telling me this story about how she got wasted at some party and her mom picked her up unexpectedly. Her mom found out and **** went down.
Thats when her mom told her her grandma had just died. Her grandpa just died last year and it was really hard on her and now this happened. I felt really sorry for her. I wouldve normally just ended the call but this was different. Everyone needs someone to talk to
She said I was an angel for picking up and what not. She called me from her house phone and had my number memorized because her mom took her phone. She didn’t seem drunk when we talked
I don’t want her back. Im done dealing with her ****. She broke up with me a month ago after a year and I she knows that I hated when she drank. What do I do? I just want to move on
She needed you at the moment, and you were the first person who came to her mind. You know how much you must mean to her for that to happen? A lot, dude.
What do you do know? Be a good friend. Let her know that she can still rely on you for stuff. I know that you don’t want to get back with her, and that’s fine, but don’t let that get in between your friendship. In the meantime, give her good advice. Drinking is obviously bad and unhealthy, so if you can, try to convince her that she should definitely stop.
Good luck 🙂
She wants you back, and she’s emotionally needy. You say you don’t want to put up with her crap, and this story just sounds like an example of the “crap” she would make you put up with.
It’s one thing to be her friend, but that’s obviously not what she’s looking for. Nobody calls their ex at 2am confiding in them unless they want them back. And even though she’s going through a tough time, she sounds like a manipulative person, and manipulative people have a way of making you feel guilty. So, if you want to be her friend, fine, but I think you should move on.
Maybe she needed someone to talk to and that someone happened to be YOU. Perk up and just lend a shoulder for her to cry on as a FRIEND. If you don’t want to be her friend then let her know so she could stop calling you.
Just tell the truth, that you just want to remain friends and nothing more. That you have move on and do want to go backwards. People who drink do not change overnight and some never change.
So just be honest with her and tell her you want to keep on a friendship basis only. and have your phone number changed, so you don’t get calls in the middle of the night.
There is nothing here for you to do .According to you,everyone needs someone to talk to and the situation was a different one and you felt sorry for her. Nowhere else in your story do you indicate that she wants to get back with you or that her call was just a ruse to talk to you.She needed someone to talk to and felt comfortable talking to you;after all you guys were a couple for a year. Unless there is something else you omitted from adding or something else that makes you conclude that she was just trying to use this call to get back with you,I do not see anything for you to do or that prevents you from moving on. That is if you are completely sure that you no longer love or want to be with her.
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Do nothing. Like you said, everyone needs someone to talk to when they’re hurting. And you did talk to her. You don’t have to anymore. You can move on and you should if she can’t make you happy.
that’s nice how you can still be her friend after everything that happened,but she needs to understand that your not gong to be around anymore.she broke up with you for a reason, and when somebody breaks up with you you can’t go back with them,because if they really did like you and wanted to be with you then they would have never done something like that to you.the best thing you can do is let her understand that she let you go and she’s missing out on a good thing. she needs to know that you can’t always be there for her because you need your space to move on.
“you have to move on, to let you”
-Deadmau5 & Kaskade
well obviously she still trusts you as a friend and you need to help her out trough them trying times i have a friend and i am her pillow basically she tells me all she’s done and will do and it is some crazy stuff…but if you have feelings for her you should help her get off those drinking habits or cut back.. and you two could start going again
Maybe learn something about alcoholism. It sounds as if she has a problem. It’s always good to know what you’re getting into, or good reasons why not to. good luck.