Ok, I took this girl out on a date last thursday( a week ago from today) the date went well , we laughed, there were no awkward silences. at the end of dinner I paid and she asked me what I wanted to do. I told her we could go get a couple drinks somewhere or we could go back to my place( which may have been a mistake) i dont know though. She said that her friends wanted us to go to a bar and she wanted to as well, so we did. After we left the bar she apologized that she made me go to the bar with her friends, I told her I didnt mind, I just wanted her to see my place, after I said that she said ” eventually” . And then after she said that I said ” well maybe we should do this again sometime( meaning go out with here again” and she immediatley said ” maybe so” looking away”. so I tried to meet up at a football game with her saturday, but she kinda let me know she was with her friends, we didnt meet up.. I gave it a few days and called her, she didnt answer but she did text me back 30 minutes later, telling me ” was taking a nap, whats up? I told her that we should meet up again sometime after thanksgiving next week and she said ” maybe so”. thats the second time she said maybe so.. The question I have her is … Is she really interested in me because she is not ignoring me like most girls will do after a first date if they didnt like the guy, or is she really trying to make me try harder? I dont think that a girl would respond to a guy who she isnt interested in. From a ladies perspective do you think she is # telling me no in a nice way, or #2 she really is interested but wants me to try a little harder? or #3 likes to take things slow?? whatcha think I should do next ?
There are a couple of possibilities here. One is that she thinks you’re primarily interested in sex since you invited her back to your place the first night you went out. She may consider that disrespectful. She may think it’s too soon for sex or too soon for sex with you. She may prefer a guy who is more interested in her personality, her interests and her ideas than just her bod. She may not have had as good a time on the date as you did. Try asking her out a couple more times for specific things — dinner and a movie, some local event, etc. If she continues to put you off or say no, then she’s not interested. And next time, don’t invite a girl back to your place on the first date, no matter how fabulous your place is.
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What does it really mean when a girl says "maybe so" when you want to get together with her?
Ok, I took this girl out on a date last thursday( a week ago from today) the date went well , we laughed, there were no awkward silences. at the end of dinner I paid and she asked me what I wanted to do. I told her we could go get a couple drinks somewhere or we could go back to my place( which may…
Ok, sorry,but i’m not reading all that you wrote, but just by answering the heading question, “maybe so” means she’s not interested and doesn’t wanna be rude about it. It could also mean that she is kinda interested but is waiting on guys of more interest and is thinking of you as a “backup”
From a “ladies” perspective – it’s either:
a) one of those girls who is too nice to say “no, I am not interested” and hopes you’ll take the hint and go away
b) you may have come on a little too strong about going to your place, since you mentioned it more than once during the first date. That can put off most nice girls – you know, the onces worth keeping.
c) she’s keeping her options open.
Agreeig with the fellow above – she’s weighing her options, keeping you on deck. If you really, really like her, hang in there – but I wouldn’t bet the farm that you will end up together.
I don’t know, man – if a girl likes a boy, and wants to get with him, it shouldn’t be this guessing game. Sounds to me like you’re at least Plan B, or maybe C or D. Sorry. 🙁
I think by inviting her to your place you turned her off and now she’s scared that you only want sex. That was a bad move but if she lets you take her out again, don’t try to get her in a secluded area. She clearly wants to take things slow and you’re going to have to prove to her that you want her for her and not what’s between her legs.
You did not set a time and place. Try to set up a date for a specific time and place. If she says maybe, or no, then I would say she failed the test and you can just move on. Let her make the next move
either she is a bit shy
or she wants to look like she can get any guy she wants and doesnt want you to think that she’s desperate.