I’m 13 years old, I’ve had my peirod for 2 and a half years, and I obviously wear pads, I feel ‘Yucky’ every time I get my period. I always feel dirty. And I hate going out in public cause, When I wear them, my pad shifts, and it gets in my undies. I’ve brought the subject of tampons up once and she said ‘No, you can’t wear tampons and be a virgin.’ And I didn’t say anything else. How can I convince her to allow me to wear them? I’m aware of TSS and that tampons can get ‘ lost’ sometimes. I’m pretty mature for my age but she still treats me as a child. It gets very frustrating….
Sorry, by ‘it’ I meant the blood (:
Sorry, by ‘it’ I meant the blood (:
4 Answers
Wearing tampons has nothing to do with virginity so her reasoning is absolutely ridiculous. Virginity is lost through sexual activity of penis in vagina not trying to manage your period by using a tampon. She might think that if you use tampons you might break your hymen which she may be associating with being a virgin. I did when I first put in a tampon I could feel it, I still didn’t have sex and remained a virgin for 8 more years after my first tampon. You can break your hymen horseback riding or other activities that are non sexual so that’s a poor way to track virginity anyway.
Being 13 I imagine you would want to start with very small tampons with small pads or liners as backup but you have to just convince her that it’s your personal choice. Try to make her understand that you’re becoming a woman and need to be in charge of managing your own personal menstruation in a way that you are comfortable with. Tell her exactly what you tell us, that pads make you feel dirty and that you feel like you would be responsible and more comfortable with tampons. Tell her you would start slow with small light tampons and just want to give it a try.
She has absolutely no right to try to make you feel like using a tampon is a naughty activity. If she feels like it’s shameful to be more comfortable with tampons than she must not be very comfortable with bodily functions in general.
And if the above suggestions don’t work, when you’re hanging out at the mall with your friends, just buy some and don’t tell your mom. Like the others said, just because you wear tampons does not mean you’re not a virgin anymore. Who knows, you may not even like tampons but it’s worth a try and if your mom won’t let you, I feel like it’s not a big deal if you get them without her knowing. It’s your body, you should be able to manage your period how you find it comfortable.
It sounds like your mom is scared that you might be sexually active, or maybe even shes sad that you’re growing up so fast. Sit down and have a serious talk with her about it. Tell her that you know she might have different feelings about it, but when it comes down to it, you are uncomfortable wearing pads and think you’re mature enough to start wearing tampons. Tell her you can start out with the itty bitty ones! And even though its a bit embarrassing to talk sex with your parents, you might have to flat out tell her “LISTEN, IM NOT GONNA HAVE SEX JUST BECAUSE IM WEARING TAMPONS!” lol. Goodluck!
im 13 and wear tampons sometimes i dont really like them i just have to get used to them. just confront your mom and say you gona have to use them sooner or later and your ready now.