We had just came home from church and my daughter wentry to take a nap. My husband and I decided to have sex, before we did I made sure she was asleep. About 10 minutes later my daughter came into our room and my husband and I were “69”. I feel like such a horrible mom. About a month ago me and my daughter had the sex talk and everything I told her not to do I was doing. My daughter was crying and I was so angry I kind of took it out on my husband and we got into a huge argument. He told me I was over reacting and I started yelling at him telling him it was his idea and his fault even though it really wasn’t and I was just upset. I don’t even know what to say to my daughter. I read her journal and she wrote down how I was doing nasty things with her dad. Any advice ?
FYI
It was about a week ago
My daughter is 11
We have 5 kids in total.
12 Answers
Your daughter thinks you’re a hypocrite for doing the things you told her not to do. Time for some damage control. Explain to her that adults do these things in private. I also think you should emphasize that it’s wrong if you do it with random people rather than someone you’re in a steady relationship with. You definitely over-reacted – it’s something you should have let go. It happens. And what were you doing reading her diary? That’s an equally private matter, and if she finds out you’ve been snooping it’ll cause even more damage. Don’t do it. Finally, lock the damned door next time.
I’m not gonna lie…she’s going to remember this probably her whole life, lol. But you know what? She should be able to understand at her age that adults have sex – parents INCLUDED. How did she get here otherwise?
I have 5 kids too and we’ve been interrupted more times than i’d like but the kids get over it. They’ll get the willies thinking about it but they’ll move on.
And also, your daughter should be happy that mum and dad still love each other and aren’t out doing those things with other people. I’m sure she has friends with divorced parents that can vouch for that.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. It happens. It’s not as bad as you think. Maybe consider getting a lock on your door this weekend,lol. Goodl uck
Instead of being a hypocrit, try just telling her that what people do when they are in love. Be open about talking about sex with her, but dont force the topic. Let her know she can talk to you about any questions. Tell her sex and nudity is nothing to be ashamed of, but you didnt intend for her to see you like that.
This happen to us too , But we are an open family and answers all question on sex ,
You need to only say that in marriage people show love in many ways and your dad and I love each other .
Please next time knot on the door be fore entering . Ask do you have any question.
“Everything I told her not to do I was doing”??? I’m confused. I mean, I hope what you told your daughter during the talk was that the REASON she shouldn’t do those things is because she’s too young, and maybe even because she’s not married–but that once she is married, those things are fine, they’re wonderful.
Figure out why it is necessary
for you to be a hypocrite, doing
things that you told her were bad.
Next thing you need to figure out
is why you were not able to lock
the door, especially after being
mindful enough to make sure
she was asleep.
I’d say that since she has seen you doing it, from now on just leave the door open so she can watch.
not much you can do about it now, maybe you should get a lock for your door so this dont happen again
you found out the hard way why doors have locks on them
Maybe lock the door next time….lol