HELP?! I miss my old teacher so much it hurts…?

Hi everyone! I want to start of by saying, I know all of you have your own opinions, some of which disagreeing with being close to teachers, but please keep everything nice 🙂 On to my question….

My last year teacher really and truly is my best friend. And I miss her so much it honestly hurts inside and I don’t know what to do. I keep all of these feelings to myself because my so-called friends think I’m crazy. Anyways, towards the end of the school year last year we got REALLY super close. I was having major issues with a few things and she was the only one nice enough and who cared enough to help me and give me advice. I miss her so much. Since I’m a year older now of course I had to move schools. I still go and visit her for about an hour every other week, but for any of you who know what I’m going through, you know it honestly isn’t enough time to tell her everything I need to. It’s almost like your best friend moving to a new city. It sucks :/ I don’t know how much she really misses me or if she just pretends to miss me, but I miss her more than anything. We talk about each and every thing going on in our lives which makes me feel like she kind of cares. I really and truly love her with all of my heart! (not in a bad way I PROMISE!) Should I tell her when I see her next about how much of an impact she made on my life and how much I miss her and look up to her? Is this normal? If any of you are in the same position please let me know how you feel! Anything will be appreciated! Thanks so much 🙂

XOXO, SoftballChickk

6 Answers

  • J
    8 days ago

    Yes yes yes I’m in the exact same position as you right now! Except she’s like a sister to me. I miss her like crazy and I don’t visit her but its been 2 years so I’m thinking about going to see her some times. I emailed her today and telling her I miss her and looking back made me realized how close we were. She’s really only 9 years older than me lol. So if you want to email her or talk to her on Facebook then do so. And Its normal to be feeling this way about a teacher you bonded with cause I understand that you care about her and you want to be in her life for a long time. Your not the only one feeling this way, You can even hangout with her like go to lunch or whatever, do whatever u need to get how you feel off your chest. Hope I helped:)

  • Anonymous
    7 days ago

    I’m writing this seriously late, but I know the feeling as well. I used to live in UK but now I live in India and its not normal to find a close student and teacher, but I miss one of my teachers so much. I am friends with her on Facebook and I do talk to her a lot but I still miss her so much! She was my class teacher for Year 9 and she was one of the funniest and nicest people ever. I don’t even know if she actually misses me, but I miss her so much. 🙁 I know a lot about her personal life and she pretty much knows all about mine! So the only thing to do is hope and pray that she misses you as well.

  • Anonymous
    6 days ago

    Yes I feel the same way, my teacher was from high school and I can say I ve never felt such a deep loss as when I graduated and had to say goodbye to her. Since we are the opposite sex, I think it becomes a lot more tricky because people may assume the relationship might be inappropriate. I don t have romantic feelings for her, I look at her as a member of my family, like a big sister. When I started in college I did go back to my HS to visit her twice. Then she eventually left the school to raise her 3 kids and keep the house while her husband worked. I did not see or talk to her for the next 12 years, but I did see her again because her kids went to the same HS as I did and I finally saw her again for the first time since the 12 years had passed at a dinner fundraising event for the school. I went up to her and I don t think she recognized me right away because I no longer had glasses and I also had a few grey hairs lol but I saw something click as I was standing there smiling and then she recognized it was me. She got up from the table and hugged me and we talked for a few minutes, and I met her husband, who was a great guy. After that I did not see her again for 2 years and then I saw her this past year at the same fundraiser. She recognized me quicker this time! Again she gave me a hug and we spoke briefly. I asked her if I could get a picture of us and we did that, and then she took down my number so she could text me a copy of the picture (it was taken on her phone) — then she said “now I can text you” so at least I have a way to contact her. But the pain of missing her has not gone away. The title of this post is fitting because it does hurt. I think about her often. Like some of the previous posts, I don t know how much she may miss or care about me, but she does reply to my texts. I ve told her I consider her a part of my family. She said she keeps me in her thoughts and prayers because my family is going through a tough time right now with another family member with terminal cancer. I ve only texted her twice even though it s been several months since I got her contact info and she got mine because I don t want to make things awkward for her with her spouse. I realize even the appearance of things can cause problems even though our relationship is and was very pure and healthy.

    I m wondering if there is anyone else who has a similar situation with a teacher of the opposite sex? If so, how do you approach interacting with them? What did you tell them in terms of how you feel about them?

    Also, are there any teachers out there who can give some perspective from your end? Do you feel the same connection with your former students as your students feel with you? I appreciate any feedback on this!

  • gem.gurl
    6 days ago

    Same here….. It’s my college professor! I know it is natural and healthy. To have someone to look up to, to have someone who you believe to care about you, to have some kind of a guiding light.

    My professor and I just recently got reconnected by a mere serendipity after 8 years…. after all the ups and downs in my life…. his simple encouragement still pushes me to become a better person everyday though years may fade memories, he will always be that someone who took extra effort to build my self- esteem, and I will forever be grateful.

  • Emily Davidson
    8 days ago

    I know just how you feel . I am very close to a teacher in my school and she ‘s like my own mother.

    You ‘ll miss her when she is far away from you.This is why I am trying to avoid her while I can .

    Better to hurt now then later..

  • Anonymous
    7 days ago

    Im having the same exact thing happening

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