There’s this girl who works at the same company as me and we’re pretty close. Her boyfriend works for the same company as us but I don’t particularly like the guy. I think he’s a smug, arrogant jerk who treats his girlfriend like she’s an annoyance.
Anyway, the past few weeks she’s been telling me about how they’ve been having relationship issues. Just recently she informed me that her boyfriend has mono. I asked her if he caught it from her and she said there’s no way because they haven’t been in close contact for over a month. I know there are other ways besides kissing someone for a person to catch mono, but I personally think he cheated on her.
What do you all think? Did he cheat on her or is he one of the rare cases of someone who caught it through a cough or sneeze?
Wow, lots of good responses.
First off, a few people have mentioned that I should not get in their business. I feel I should mention that I don’t intend to. I did not add any fuel to the fire by saying anything stupid like, “well maybe he cheated on you.” Instead, I simply said she should talk to him once he’s better.
Secondly, I do care for this girl but I don’t intend to be malicious and try to use this to break them up.
Thirdly, I don’t feel I am getting in anyone’s business. She told me this on her own and I simply wanted to see what other people thought. I don’t intend to take these answers and run back to her saying, “You see!! All these other people think he’s cheating on you!!”
Great feedback so far. Keep the answers coming!!
Wow, lots of good responses.
First off, a few people have mentioned that I should not get in their business. I feel I should mention that I don’t intend to. I did not add any fuel to the fire by saying anything stupid like, “well maybe he cheated on you.” Instead, I simply said she should talk to him once he’s better.
Secondly, I do care for this girl but I don’t intend to be malicious and try to use this to break them up.
Thirdly, I don’t feel I am getting in anyone’s business. She told me this on her own and I simply wanted to see what other people thought. I don’t intend to take these answers and run back to her saying, “You see!! All these other people think he’s cheating on you!!”
Great feedback so far. Keep the answers coming!!
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Contrary to popular belief, mono is not a kissing disease. It is, however, highly contagious and this guy could have contracted it in numerous ways. The fact that they haven’t had close contact for over a month is a bigger indicator of trouble in paradise. If she suspects cheating she should trust her instincts and keep her eyes open.
Ok she said she hasnt had close contact for a month I got mono from my bf and i still have it and it took 2 months to show up! And he had it a year before but you can still get it! Mono stays with u ur whole life! He might have cheated on her but just because he has mono and she doesnt doesnt mean he is cheating! Give him the benefit of the doubt! If you personally think that he cheated then tell her!
Although it’s known as the kissing disease “How one catches mono is not really known; however, many medical authorities believe that secretions from the nose and throat spread the virus. Thus close contact (e.g. sneezing or kissing) may spread it. Some people may have mono without knowing it, so you can get it without remembering contact with anyone who had it.”
Someone getting mono, when their partner doesn’t have it, is not proof of cheating. Perhaps the guy did cheat…or perhaps you find it easy to believe he did because you dislike him.
Well I’m not sure if he cheated on his girlfriend or anything, but he definitely could have gotten mono from not kissing. When I was younger, like 12 or 11, I caught mono, and I had NEVER kissed ANYBODY. I know it’s called a “kissing disease”, but maybe he really hasn’t been cheating. I knowthis is going to seem pretty harsh but, maybe you should let her deal with it. If she wants to talk to you about it, listen, but if she asks your opinion, you might just want to exit stage left.
When I was in high school a bunch of my friends all caught mono from one girl we hung out with and we never kissed her. We shared drinks and food. We used to pass soda cans back and forth and share soda pop at lunch time. Believe me there are other ways to get mono. I got pretty freaked out because this one girl who was the absolute most virginal chaste never even had a date friend was totally railroaded by her dad because her dad was convinced it meant she had become a total slut overnight. HOw stupid can people get.
What I am wondering is why you are so concerned about it. Do you like this girl? I can understand you being infatuated with her and thinking you would be better for her, but don’t trump up charges when you don’t know the facts just to woo her. I mean it would be a shady way to start a relationship anyway. Wait til she figures it out for herself that he isn’t good to her, and breaks up with him on her own. You can always catch her on the rebound.
Mono is usually spread through kissing. Mono usually develops 4-6 weeks after exposure.
The guy sounds like a jerk !! But you can get mono just from drinking from someone else’s glass so it’s not necessarily a sign of cheating !! Your friend should leave the loser!!Don’t get caught up in her relationship cause you could get hurt !! It is up to her what she wants to do with her life !! Just be there for her when she wants to talk but don’t get involved!! O.K….
Do NOT I repeat DO NOT go butting into their relationship and putting doubts in your friend’s head based on such flimsy information.
for your information, although kissing someone is one way of catching mono… he could have used a fork at a restaurant that wasn’t washed well, someone sneezing….many ways.
another way mono is “caught” is that the person has the virus in them since childhood – if they were ever exposed to the epstein barr viruse 9which is very common) they are subject to catching mono at any point in their life. As it stays dormant in the person forever. There are actually several viruses he could have been exposed to as a child which could lead to mono later in life.
When in High school my sister gave me mono from drinking glasses or because out toothbrushes were to close. This is from webMD. It says it can take 4-6 wks for symptoms to show. I wouldn’t jump to the thought that he was cheating.
It’s possible. But don’t think that just because he has mono he’s cheating. My friend had mono and she’s still hasn’t had her first kiss yet.